Dating Advice (that probably works..)

My cousin will somehow become funnier and smarter when he is wooing a girl he likes. That is because he possesses fluid intellect, where someone can think very quickly and adapt to their situation at hand. He instinctively knows what to do. As a result, it would appear that he does very well in the dating game.

This courting love game is like non-stop musical chairs; like it or not, we will subconsciously base our self-worth on this inescapable social phenomenon.

If we get asked out on a weekly basis, we feel attractive.
It must mean we have a high value in the dating market.
But, we are often looked aside, or perceived to have less success in this area… Let's just say our reaction may be tad bit more negative (some people start calling the opposite gender stupid/waste of time, some people will wonder "what is wrong with me?"…)

I would encourage anyone I know, not to base their self-worth on how often they get asked out or how often people are attracted to them. Because that is not a stable criteria, you can't rely on other people to tell you what you are worth.

However, my encouragement is often brushed aside.

Sheesh, I get it!

So…dear readers.

Here are some dating advice:


(1) "I had the most luck dating when I was focused on work, school, and hobbies. That way when my crush asked 'what have you been up to?',my answer isn't going to be 'uhh umm, well, I have been staring at your gorgeous face all day..." -Cristen Conger
Cristen Conger is the host, creator, and the youtube personality of "Stuff Mom Never Told You", link below. In one of her videos, a commenter asked what is the best dating advice she could give, and her response was to pursue hobbies, interest, and passions. That way you will have something to talk about, when you encounter a potential love interest.

This is not a joke. I have spent all night, from 2am-->6am, trying to find that specific video in which she gave that specific dating advice. But have come here empty handed. You will just have to trust me on this (she did say that! I swear!)

https://www.youtube.com/user/StuffMomNeverToldYou


(2) "First Date Conversation: 5 Things Research Says You Should Talk About" by Eric Barker
http://time.com/3087739/first-date-conversation-5-things-research-says-you-should-talk-about/



(to be continued...)